Relationship Myths That Need Debunking
"It'll never work because we aren't compatible." Or, "I don't think we need anything more than love."
If you're like many others, you've probably heard or said these expressions before. You have to think of relationships as living things, so there aren't any set-in-stone truths about them. Take the time and go through these myths about relationships that need debunking.
Couples In A Good Relationship Don't Argue
False. It's not about if they argue or not, but how they go about it. You can have either destructive or productive discussions. Good relationships usually run on the productive side.
If You're Happy With Your Partner, You Don't Need Close Friends
It isn't okay to isolate yourself in a relationship to the point where all you have is your partner. If things go south, you'll need a support group to help you.
Love Is All You Need
You'll need patience, trust, honesty, and more in a relationship, so don't believe all you need is love. Sure, that will get you far, but it's nothing without the rest of the pieces.
Having A Baby Will Solve Your Issues
It's unfair to you and your future baby if you think this unborn child will save a relationship. It could buy you a few more months, maybe even some miserable years, but don't irresponsibly get pregnant to help a lost cause.
Your Partner Knows What They Did
It's never healthy to assume your partner knows the reason behind your mood unless it was explicitly stated. This is why communication is such a powerful thing between two people.
You Need To Get Physical A Set Amount
There are no strict guidelines requiring you and your partner to get busy. Unless that's something you two discussed, the intimacy comes and goes like the weather, so it's not like there's a pre-set schedule.
Never Speak Up About Issues In A New Relationship
This would be the wrong thing to do. You learn a lot at the start of something new, so that's the perfect time to ask questions and bring up any concerns you might have.
If It Was Meant To Be, It Will Work Out
Think of relationships like ships, since they both need some steering. You can't expect things to work out without putting in any effort "because that's what the universe wants." If you're not steering away from the icebergs, you'll sink every time.
There Will Always Be Romance If You're In Love
Falling in love releases a special chemical in your brain that makes you feel euphoric. If only that feeling would last forever. After so many years, the desire might remain, but the romance level won't be the same. That's when you should try to spice things up with something new.
You Know What You Want And You're Not Compromising
Let's face it: not everyone gets exactly what they want in a partner. There will always be some level of compromise whether you'd like to admit it or not. That's just life.
You Should Never Go To Bed Angry
Hiccups will come around in a relationship and you won't have a magic wand to fix it. Since these issues dictate your mood, it's not realistic to think you can solve everything before going to bed. All you can do is do your best to control your individual emotions.
Good Relationships Don't Require Work
That's a load of you-know-what. Nothing worth your while ever comes easy. If you want to see progress, then you have to work towards your goals. The keyword there is "work."
You Have To Love Your Partner's Worst Qualities
Don't believe this at all. What if one of the qualities your partner possesses is something destructive like excessive drinking? That's not what you need to accept, let alone love, and doing so will not lead to a healthy relationship.
You Need To Be Compatible For It To Work
While compatibility is a huge plus, it won't make or break your relationship. If anything, the less compatible you two are, the more chances you have to grow with each other.
You're Jealous Because You're In Love
This could be true and it could be false. Sadly, the jealously could stem from relationship issues you two haven't patched up yet. Don't think love defeats all when you haven't fixed anything yet.
It's Going To End Because All You Do Is Fight
Dreading your relationship's "eventual" demise due to constant bickering isn't always an accurate prediction. Those fights could do the opposite and strengthen your relationship if you steer them in the right direction.
Your Partner Needs To Change For You To Be Happy
Rule number one is never to put the key to your happiness in someone else's hand. You never know what that person might do with it, so don't rely on anyone else. Maybe change yourself in a positive direction and see what happens.
The Spark Vanishes Once You're Married
After you tie the knot, that's when things get more interesting. If you married the right person, then the flame will always stay lit because you two won't let it die.
Real Love Is All About Passion
Passion plays a part, but it isn't everything when it comes to love. There are so many pieces involved with it, it's one of the best puzzles you'll ever solve when you figure it.
If You Turn To Therapy, It's Already Too Late
This isn't the case. Couples' therapy could be the thing to glue it back together if you allow it. Don't dismiss this step if it's reached this point because it's crucial for a lot of people.
